Saturday, October 17, 2009

The Obsession Post


BikerMan and I had a huge fight the other night

This fight was followed by a huge talk


I am obsessed by all things trying to conceive

All things baby

Getting knocked up

Now this may come as a surprise to some of you

If it does, please I insist that you take a moment

Sit down

Place your head downwards between your knees



It of course did not come as a shock to me

I mean come on, it's been 10 years

You don't manage 10 years without dedication

and a bit of hardcore obsession

Our conversation did however come as a shock

And I think it could may very well be the clincher

In whether or not our ttc journey is going to continue

Or end

I am thinking it may be the latter at the moment

While I still ponder, let me ask, are YOU obsessed by trying to get knocked up?

Are you constantly thinking about pregnancy, babies and how to get one of your own?

Do we need to start a TTC Anonymous?


  1. "Hello my name is ... and I'm obsessed with getting pregnant!"

    "Hello ..."

    If you're anything like me, after ten years it's amazing you have room in your mind for anything else at all. I'm getting better at trying to make room for other things and especially for trying to keep SOME focus on my hubby. But yes I am obsessed too.

    Good luck with figuring out whether to continue or not. It can't be an easy decision, but just make sure whatever you decide you really are going to be happier with that decision than the other one. In other words if you decide to stop that you are going to be happier with that than continuing down this terrible TTC road with the promise or should we call it hope of what you could have at the end.

  2. At some point, I think it does border on obsession. I remember our RE telling us that some people need therapy in their TTC journey because things get so hairy and, at times, that she has required couples to go before beginning treatment.

  3. I used to be obsessed, at one stage my obsession was such that I did 3 IUI's and 3 IVF's in the space of 8 months, whihc is no mean feat. Then I realized that no about of obsessing would change my situation, no amount of trying to get through this journey at record speed would change my outcome and as hard as it was I had to just sit back and where possible enjoy the rid.
    Its made coping with TTC and fertility treatments and being childless in a fertile world far easier to cope with.

  4. Hello, my name is Jessica and I'm an infertile...yes, we need a support group because I'm obsessed. So much so that I'm about to embark on some crazy 6 month journey that consists of natural medicines (something I never thought I would do) in hopes to get pregnant.

    Hang in there sweetheart!

  5. I'm obsessed - but I like to think of it as just really focused. :)

    While in the midst of treatments now, yes, I am obsessed. But I don't see a problem with that. If it come a time that we must stop, it will be hard. But hopefully I'm then obsessing about something else.

  6. I consider my blogging, as TTC anonymous, and yeah we're all obsessed and unfortunately I don't have any advice on a way around it. I suggest reading "Waiting for Daisy", she had the exact same argument... she ended up 'pretending' to not be obsessed to keep the journey going. It's not easy for guys to understand for some reason, but I don't know if that means the journey ends or how we approach them ends.

  7. I certainly was obsessed, during our journey with TTC. Which is why my DH and I decided to put an end point on our treatments so we could focus on moving on -- like, if it didn't work after xyz, then we would either change our course of becoming parents (e.g. adoption) or we would get a lot of dogs and buy some property outside of town.

  8. My response is a bit longer, so I put it on my blog and linked your blog to my post. Wonderful topic for discussion, BTW. Thank you!

  9. Hmm, I think many of us need a TTC anonymous, heheheh.

    In all seriousness though, I am sorry you had a fight.

    I know I obsess about becoming a mother. I'm hoping to change that a little, but who knows how that will work out. It's really hard to not think about it, when you want it so bad.

  10. Hi, My name is Journeywoman and I'm obsessed with having a kid.

    Not as much TTC anymore but the adoption route. We've been trying for 9 years.

    I hear you sister.

  11. Morning my love.
    How are you?

    I don't know any woman that is going though IF that isn't obsessive about having a baby.
    Its perfectly normal!

    Much love.