Friday, September 11, 2009

Looking Looking Looking but no....

.....comments.

I routinely look at my blog during the day and refresh to see how many people have been looking at my blog.

In the past 40 minutes I've refreshed 3 times and each time I've had 8, 7 and 10 more "readers" each time and yet no comments.

It makes me wonder what makes people comment and what makes them just read and then click elsewhere?

Do someones words have to jump out at you to make you want to leave them a comment? Do you have to agree with what the author has written or perhaps strongly disagree?

Some are happy to just blog and not receive comments, others thrive on what others think about their writing and perhaps they like knowing that their blog is offering others support or hope and so receiving comments is like receiving hope and support back.

I will put my hand up to blogging better when I'm receiving comments, it makes me very much more aware of blogging well because I know people are reading my words and so I strive to make sure my posts are well written. Don't get me wrong, my blog is for ME, not for anyone else, it's a place where my soul comes to vent and divulge itself, it's its haven and if I never received another comment, I'd still blog BUT my soul does enjoy receiving comments, knowing it's not alone in putting itself out there for the world to judge and comment on.

Would you still blog if you never had and never would receive a comment on anything you wrote?

25 comments:

  1. I'm commenting! I wanted to say thank you for your comment on my blog. It is definitely taking a toll on me!

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  2. I'd still blog. I get startled by comments on my blog because I never really expect them. Except when I ask direct questions obviously.

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  3. I don't always get comments, but once in a while someone comes out of the blue to add something...a word of encouragement here or a shout out there...I would blog if I knew for fact that no one read it but me; hell, that was my original intent until I made a few comments on others' blogs and they returned in kind. I checked into Google Analytics to track but quickly decided that it's not for me. I don't want to lose sight of my blog's purpose, which is just to vent and smile and cry in written words for myself - I treat it like the weird narrative of my secret infertile double-life. I always appreciate supportive comments, but I've been careful not to rely on them too much in case they don't appear when I want them to, or as quickly as I'd hoped, etc. But I enjoy reading yours and others' blogs and leaving what I hope are helpful comments from time to time. Cheers!

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  4. Once I've commented on a blog (outside of the exception below), I tend to continue commenting regularly...but I have a hard time jumping in with my first comment. Generally, I will read someone for a while and then comment when they post about something where I make a personal connection and can say something less generic than "good luck!", etc.

    The exception is when I am pointed toward someone who is going through a rough patch (via LFCA or another blogger). I will post something then just to offer support and because I am sensitive to them not wanting to feel like a train wreck or side show with a lot of views and few comments (projecting much?).

    I think I would keep blogging without comments, but if I was doing this as a purely solo exercise I'd make the blog private and do less self-editing. On the other hand, I am also not interested in being a blogger with dozens of comments on EVERY post. Too much pressure and I am pretty sure it would lead me to self-edit in a way that would make the process less rewarding for me.

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  5. I'd still blog too, even without comments. I think I comment when something I read grabs me. There are a few people that I comment all the time for, I think we know each other well by now. And sometimes, I'm just not in a commenting mood. Those days I may come back later, or I just miss commenting that day. I follow many many more blogs than I could comment on every day. So even though I may not comment, it doesn't mean I'm not interested.

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  6. I mostly just enjoy reading blogs unless something does strike me. Like right now.

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  7. Honestly, I am not sure if I would still blog. It's not that I blog for others, my blog is for me, but I think if no one commented on my blog, it would kind of seem pointless. I could just write in a journal or something. I hear exactly what you are saying, and I know that I haven't been that good at commenting recently. Know that I am here and I love what you write! Keep blogging friend!

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  8. I would still blog.
    I've kept diaries since I was 10 yrs old (still got them somewhere) so its normal for me to sit and write about my day/whats happening.

    I do love comments though. Its nice to know that someone out there is reading.

    Hope your good?
    x

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  9. I agree with "addingtothepack." I tend to be somewhat of a shy gal, and sometimes I lack the courage to begin commenting on a blog that I've been lurking on for a while.

    I follow many, many blogs (like "Pie"), and sometimes I just don't have the time to leave comments on all the day's posts. But even if I don't comment, I'm always sending silent well-wishes. And I try to re-visit the blogs I'm unable to comment on, once time allows.

    Getting comments from readers is great. Yes, I admit, I love getting comments. =) I love that there are so many supportive women out there who are willing to offer cyber hugs and pearls of IF wisdom. It's quite the community.

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  10. Damn. Above comment was from me. =) Ah, the perils of having 2 Google accounts.

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  11. I have blogged in the past with no one reading so I know I would continue to blog either way but you are right, getting comments on what you write does motivate you to keep going.

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  12. I am not sure if you would like comments from me....some one that has made it to the other side of IF. So when in doubt I don't comment rather than offend.

    I would still blog though comments or no comments.

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  13. I've often wondered the same thing Rach. Since hosting my blog privately, I now have the added ability to see who is stopping by my blog, so I can see when all my "regulars" pop by and often wonder what makes them comment on some days and not on others. I have a number of "regulars" who pop by daily but will only comment once out of all of those visits.

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  14. I started my blog as an outlet, I didn't do it for anyone but myself. I needed to write down what was swirling around in my head as I thought I was losing my mind with all the IF turmoil.

    But what I found was a awesome support network...people who I would have never met in the real world.

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  15. I'd still blog I think, but I would probably think about why no one was identifying with what I was writing. But I started my blog to connect with other people since IRL I only had my sister who understood infertility, not just to vent online. It works really well for that too, though :).

    I think sometimes I read and click away when I don't know how to comment on something that I have no experience with. I do try to comment on most posts that I read, although it is time-consuming. If I find myself never reaching out and commenting, then I usually end up removing the blog from my reader.

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  16. Honestly, I'm not sure if I would keep blogging without the comments. If not comments, at least feedback from my family and friends (I am open about my blog) to let me know they are reading. It's much more work to post on my blog than write in a diary -- I'd just as soon do that if what I say is not involved in any sort of conversation.

    Why don't I comment sometimes? It may purely be time. If I am busy and get behind, I want to keep up with the blogger but don't have time to click and make a thoughtful response. Sometimes it's because as Vee says... as a mother after IF, sometimes I feel like my comment may not be appreciated (if they click to check out my blog and see pictures of my son). And sometimes I just have a hard time coming up with something thoughtful -- I'd rather not speak than just leave a useless comment. :)

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  17. Time is definitely a factor. I certainly don't have time to comment on every post that I read every day. Sometimes I want to comment but I need to take some time to think about what I want to say, maybe come back later. Also, if 20 people have already made awesome comments(especially if they essentially say what I wanted to say), I sometimes feel a little lame just adding, "me too," lol.

    I like to think I write my blog for me -- but yeah, getting comments does make my day! ; )

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  18. hmmm...good question. I would blog if it wasn't for my faithful readers and commenters but it would be a private blog that only I could read. I enjoy reading other peoples blogs and I enjoy getting comments. It feels good to know others care or are can relate to my feelings. Somedays I feel less crazy.

    babyparamore.blogspot.com

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  19. Good question. I think I would, but maybe not quite as often. Heck, I blogged for like a month or two before I even got my first comment I think...

    Sometimes I click on your blog, to see if there's a new post. If there isn't a new post, I click away. I might be one of the people not leaving a comment, lol.

    But, if there is a new post and it's something I really want to nod my head at, support, or offer assvice, I do try to leave a comment.

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  20. I've been commenting on your blog since I discovered it! I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad.

    I started my blog as a diary. I didn't know there even was a blogging community. I knew sometimes celebrities wrote blogs people read, but I had no idea regular folks read each other's blogs. I feel so blessed to have found the support of the IF community!

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  21. I'm here hon, sorry I have been lax with my comments lately, I think life gets on top of me sometimes!

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  22. Today is the first time i have read your blog, so i was reading 'old' posts so i decided to comment on this post. I love receiving comments, its a reminder to me that i am not alone in this battle of infertility.
    Love your blog, will definately come back and read more often.
    Mel

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  23. I try to comment when I read (but, depending on the post, dont always) because I know how much the support means to me and I assume that others take their comments as support, too. But I dont write for the comments. I blog for me... Because it needs to come out. Knowing others read it, I have thought of trying to censor things but my good sense usually wins and I write what I need/want to write. But yes, I'd write if there was no one reading. I mean, that is how my blog began. There was no one but me.

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  24. I would still blog, but I do admit that I get a rush from receiving a comment on something I wrote. I think part of that is finally finding a community of people that actually truly understand the infertility struggle. I try to comment as much as a I can when I read other's blogs.

    ICLW
    www.brandysheaif.blogspot.com

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  25. dont feel bad..no one EVER comments on my blogs. maybe i should make up really mind blowing stories or something, haha!

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